Author: Cristina

In the last year or so, there has been more reports in the media about domestic violence than ever before. This has become a big silent deadly disease. Yes, I have said it a “Silent Deadly Disease”. More and more reports of domestic violence has been brought out into the light than ever before. Day in and day out we hear horrifying stories of individuals taking their rage on innocent victims. Awareness, and educational counseling needs to be implemented.

The latest one reported was the tragic lost of Kansas City Chiefs’ linebacker Jovan Belcher and his girlfriend, leaving a three-month old daughter, who has been left orphaned by this sad, sad tragedy.  It shows  this deadly disease can strike anywhere and everywhere and no one is immune from it.

On a personal note, I have been a victim myself directly and indirectly to Domestic Violence. I know and understand, how tragic and devastating it can be to the victims and their families.  We are all responsible in seeing the warning signs. No marriage, No friendship, No dating relationship is perfect.  There will be times that you will not agree with one another, situations and issues can and will become too much to handle.  You are not a failure, this fairy-tale idea of “happily ever after” doesn’t exist.  Expectations, beliefs need to be analyzed and find a middle ground where you both need to be.

Jealousy, mistrust, incompetence, and stubbornness has to be eliminated from this equation. If both parties feel that the love, understanding and compatibility is no longer there, then they should walk away from the relationship. You are hurting yourself, your mate/companion and your family and friends.  Seek counseling! That is your best decision that you can make. Things will not get better over night, but you can avoid tragedy. Your friends and family are always there to help. Go to your church, go to community, your school counselor, your mentor or even your employer.

The first step is to ask and seek help. Please you are not alone……

Thank you,

Cristina Roskoff-Harris

Editor-In-Chief

The Poor American