Hi everyone, you have all become a part of my family and I give thanks for visiting my blog. Today I will be discussing my opinion on this topic. I hope it helps someone out here.
Divorce is never easy. We all go thru some changes in our life and adding divorce to the pot really doesn’t help at all.
It really doesn’t matter how many times you have been thru this it really doesn’t get any easier. Your life as you have known it for a while has turned again. You need to get yourself out of these murky waters and re-evaluate what you want out of this.
For starters Think about yourself. Yes “Me” comes first and the rest will follow. You will have does moments that you will feel you made the right decision and you will have other moments when you are second guessing yourself. So Stop!
Do not second guess yourself. Move forward. The same energy and dedication you put yourself thru trying to make the relationship work are now needed in order for you to survive.
I know, going it alone is not easy. You now have the added stress of feeling like you failed again, but you didn’t. Commend yourself for walking away. Yes, you will still have the same financial problems from the past, but you are now in control to handle them.
No matter what, children are always hit the hardest. Lossing a parent or a segregate can be very hard on them. Explain the best you can, why this is happening. Do not make promises you cannot keep. Regardless, if those children are biological or not it will impact them emotionally and they are hurting too.
If this is your first divorce or you have been thru this before. I can assure you, they are not the same as it wasn’t the same in your relationship. If you need time for yourself, take it.
If you do not have the luxury to have time, financial matters need to be set and met. Then handle that first. Get a job, set a budget, maintained your household. Economised were you can, and do without were you can. Once you are stable enough you will be able to expand and get those added luxuries again.
Set realistic goals for yourself. Meet them head on. Do not give up. Be confidence.
You do not have to do this alone. There are others that have gone thru this and are always there to help. So seek them out. Join a support group. It helps to talk about it. You can do this.
I believe in you, and you will be okay. As I am going to be okay as well.