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Top Ten Lies Cheaters Use…..

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“I will make this as simple as I possibly can. These are the top ten lies or excuses cheaters give their partners when they know their game is up.”

#10 – Paycheck doesn’t add up

The simple excused given when the hours and pay are not the same….”Its’ must be the new girl at payroll.” “My supervisor must have forgotten to included my hours, he is under a lot of stress.” “I was working on another project, must have not included it on this pay period.”

#9 – Need To Work This Weekend/ Have to go out of town

Yes, the famous “I need to work this weekend and going out of town.” Whatever is your job title or profession. This one really should send you some bells and whistles something is definitely wrong. Double check when in doubt.

#8 – Lending Money

If your significant other is a scrooge and it’s not the giving type. You should question the why and the motives for this change of heart.

#7 – The Long Phone Conversations

I like this one. My ex-husband was full of excuses for this one. “Friends that were in need of moral support.” Ending the conversation with “I love you.”  He would say it’s a guy thing. Added it shows we are “tight”. Really?

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You may be one of the lucky ones and your partner, spouse, significant other is pretty honest. But when in doubt, do not hesitate to question it.

#6 – Going to the Store

“Yes, I need to go to the store to get a new tool, a new shirt, a new gadget for the home project, etc.” This would honestly work, if the person did not take 4 to 5 hours to come back, did not omit to answer their phones and came home with nothing to show. Come on! Women are the shopping queens of the world. Yes, we may take all day. But we do bring something back. Oh, and we do answer the phone.

#5 – Going to the Car Wash / Or going to get an Oil Change

How many times do you need to change the oil in your car? Really, I mean, honestly, really…really.  The standard for oil changes is every 3,000 to 5,000 miles or every three to four month depending on your driving conditions.

Going to the car wash is not a big thing. If you can afford it, go for it. What is a big thing is the lie about the huge line, the car wash place ran out of water. There was a huge explosion, wonder why it wasn’t in the news. and so on.

#4 – I have already eaten

Your sweetheart never misses a meal at home. You may not be the culinary chef. Your budget may be tight. But your “hubby” always, always,  eat his meals at home with you.

#3 – The ATM Withdrawals

Yes, if your special someone always paid with their debit card and now it’s on the cash system. That should alert you. All the sudden, a necessity to carry cash. The withdrawals amount should also be questioned as well. Remember cash doesn’t leave a paper trail.

 #2 – Stayed at a friend house

Yes, that dreaded party you did not want to attend or didn’t get invited.” Men only. Got carried away and drank too much. You wouldn’t want me to get arrested for DIU. So I stayed at my friend’s house.” Or even better. “We decided to spend the night at a motel just the five of us. So we could split the bill equally. You understand.”

#1 – The sick or dying friend

This one is my favorite. All of the sudden you have been casually introduced to a long time, lost friend of your spouse. The one he has never ever talked about. His best friend, his buddy or pal. Now he is at the hospital. He is dying. He doesn’t have a lot of time. He must go and see him. Spend time with him. “It’s okay, you do not have to go. He is in ICU. You understand.” Yes, I spend $40 on KFC, it was his last dying wish. How can you judge me, like that.”

Like I said this one is my favorite. If you have others to share. Please do not hesitate to include them in your commets. Until next time…….

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The Working At Home Profesional 

Any one can tell you  it is not easy to work from home. You have to be very dedicated, organized and a bit of a scheduler freak.

Life as a work at home professional  comes with many challenges.  Deadlines that are unrealistic, but must be accomplished  if you want to be the  best in your field. Not enough hours in the day to work around. Too many meetings to go to. Not enough downtime to enjoy life. But hey, bills need to be pay, right?

My advised  to all the wonderful work@home individuals is this.

Set your goals from the start. 

Yes, set your goals. If you are going to work 10, 20, 30 or even 40 hours a week. Stick to it.

Do not overwhelmed yourself with too much work. Be realistic, if you are being paid, by project, assignment or even by the minute you are on a call. Set your own expectation and meet does goal. Sometimes short-term goals are easier to achieve than long-term goals.

Give yourself time to unwind and relax.

If you do not give yourself time to relax you can burn yourself out. Go out and have fun. Take the fresh air. Dress to impress yourself not others. You are living “the dream”. Enjoy it.

Keep your head  high.

You are working, you are getting paid, you are your own boss. Congratulate yourself. You are a success. Now let’s keep ourselves there.

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My Apologies…………

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My apologies to my readers for being away for so long. I have been having so personal problems which in turn made me unable to blog until now.

I wrote a post some time back about Divorce 101. The truth of the matter is it’s not a “one size fit all” type of situation. Yes, the premise is the same money, cheating, abuse, or growing apart. What is not the same is the way we may go about it and for how long we continued the abuse even after the separation or divorce.

So let’s be clear…..

a cheater will always cheat.

an abuser will always abuse.

and an immature, selfish needy _____ will always be.

Solution……..

Walk away, no better yet, run! Leave it behind. Start your life, new and fresh.

Do not carry unnecessary baggage that is not yours.  Believe you are #1, act like your are #1 because you are.

You are special. You are great and you will conquer. You will survive this and you will triumph!

If you still have hope in finding someone who will appreciate you, you will.

For the rest of us, that have hang-up the gloves and decided “Batman Rides Alone.” I am with you.

Until next time (which it will be real soon)……..

 

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The Ultimate Guide To Working At Home

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So you have finally done it, you are working from home. Yes, the luxury of not getting up early. Dealing with commuters, traffic, parking space. You can now enjoy that cup of coffee or tea. You do not have to dress to impress or even worry about a bad hair day. Yep, you are in heaven.

Sorry to disappoint you, but you are going to have to rethink your game here.

Rule #1 – Set up a schedule

Yes…..yes….and yes. I did say it “Set up a schedule.” Why? You do not want to over-extend yourself or simply burn out. Yo want this to work, right? So set up a schedule.

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Choose your the hours you want to work. If you want to work early morning, mid-day or late afternoon. Set your hours and stick to them. You are your own boss. These hours are not set in stone. Do a two-week schedule. See how that works for you. Do not forget to set as well your days off. You can have your weekend off, or every other weekend. Some people like to have one weekday and one weekend day off. Set your appointments around your work schedule, not the other way around. You are not free all the time and you do not have the luxury of missing a deadline because of it. You need to build a good solid reputation. If you do this, you will always have steady work.

Rule #2 – Do Take Your Breaks

Is a lot better and healthier if you take your breaks. Especially lunch or a dinner break. You do not want to gain extra weight by munching all day in front of your computer. Eat somewhere else. Do not eat in front of the computer. This is your workspace do not confine yourself. You will regret it.

If you have a patio area. Have your lunch there. Go to another room, enjoy your meal. If you are a smoker or a vaper. Do the same. Take your breaks. It has been proven people who stay home have a tendency to smoke or vape more.

Rule #3 – Get Out Of Bed

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The bed is for sleeping and not for working. Have a designated work space. You will be more productive, it’s easy to manage, you will be more organized. Have a work computer, laptop or tablet for work only. Use your spare for leisure time. Do not mix work with your personal stuff. Do not check your email every second or think you will catch up on your twitter or facebook. You have a mission, you need to work to make money, pay your bills and save for your vacation.

Rule #4 – Budget

Yes, do a budget. You supposed to be saving money. That is the #1 reason you decided to work from home. Put aside the lunch money you were spending, the money you had for clothes and other things. Remember you are now responsible for your fast internet, a good workable computer and a phone. So make sure you have your priorities on your spending.

Rule #5 – Do Not Neglect Your Health 

You are being less active now. You are not running up and down stairs. Jogging for the train or even walking two blocks from your parking place. You need to exercise. If you already do, another 15-minute workout will help. Meditate. It will keep your mind active.

Socialized more, you are alone for most of the day. You still need time to interact with others. Do not turn yourself into a hermit. Remember, if you are Freelancing, a contractor or an employee chances are; The company you are working for may not offer you a health insurance  package so you will be responsible to get your own.

Rule #6 – No Pajamas

You can dress casually or even wear your house clothes. But do bathed and smell good. You will thank me later for this. Remember you want to give always the image you are employed not unemployed. The public is good at sensing how someone acts when you are employed. You always hold your head up high. You do not look like your scraping pennies when you go grocery shopping. You have a positive attitude about yourself. So always think positive.

Rule #7 – Do Not Be Ashamed or Apologetic

The work@home trend has been around for over 20 years. Now it’s becoming more popular. Your title is you want to choose one is, you are a “Telecommuter”, “Remote Agent”, ” An Out-Source Contractor”, “Freelancer”, or even a “Virtual Technician”. Do not sell yourself short by saying “I work from home.” Be proud of the company or companies you are working for. If you feel respected, you will be.

Rule #8 – Set Up Your Work Space

Be comfortable. Set up a desk, good chair for your back, a nice picture or even have your work area in front of a window. Make sure you have good lighting. You are not too cold, or drafty and you feel good where you have decided this is “work”.

When you are not working. Avoid the area altogether. This is where you go to work. You should sit in that area only for work, not for play.

Rule #9 – Avoid Burnout

Depending on your schedule and the type of work you are doing take a break. Go out! Do your research, go out and take pictures. Go window shopping. Go to the park, do something. You are not in jail. Get out of the house. Get some fresh air, Take the dog for a walk. It might help you think.

Rule #10 – Get Plenty of Rest

People who work from home, become workaholics. They just will not stop. Every waking moment they jump back into their “office” and go at it. Not good at all. When you are “off the clock” that is what it means. You are off work. Tomorrow is another day.

You need your rest. You need your sleep and you need to relax. You will not be productive to anybody if you crash.

Well, I hope these little rules help you out. I have done this on and off for the last 35 years.

 

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Is your blog used as a stepping stone by others?

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Is your blog use as a stepping stone by others? If you answered yes, you are right. No matter how much you try to protect your blog or  you did your  best with copyrights. Your blog can and will be used by others as a bridge to get better status.

Should you be sore about it? No. The reason you made a blog was to share information. As long as you get the recognition from the other bloggers you should be fine.

So why they have more followers than you? I know it’s not for the lack of trying. Remember these rule:

  • You need to blog every day
  • You have to be consistent with your chosen theme
  • You have to let people know you are out there. The web is huge, you are just a speck in its infinitive universe.
  • Social Media plays a huge part in this as well.
  • Choose your topic well.
  • Grammar is everything. Double check or even triple check for errors.
  • Pictures get their attention.
  • Captivate your audience with your title
  • Make sure you keep their interest so they can keep visiting your site.
  • Accept comments and engage with your audience. Make them feel special.

Never give up on your dream. If this is what makes you happy and you are dedicated to it do not stop.Maybe your stardom to fame will come later than sooner. You are here to built a solid foundation, not a trend or a passing wonder that eventually people will get tired of it.

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Things Happen For A Reason…..

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Good Morning, everyone. I hope your weekend was fruitful.

This morning while checking my daughter’s backpack I came across her bible verse for this week.

It got me thinking. I know we all have questioned one time or another, events that have happened close to us, and sometimes not so close.

I believe this verse should get you in the right direction to the answers you seek.

Enjoy your Monday. Remember to think positive. All things happen for a reason.

We may not like the answers we seek, but the truth never lies.

 

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When it rains it pours…….

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“My septic tank decided to clog up on Sunday. My husband decides he doesn’t want to go to work today (the sole bread winner of the household). I am being force to take a low paying job to boost our non-existent income. I hate Mondays! Yet, I still blog…..”

 

“No! That song won’t do this morning.”

So folks, let just think positive and sing our worries goodbey.”

 

“This is better. Much Better.”

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Never Give UP….Work Hard!

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Nobody said life was easy. You just have to work hard to get the things you really want.

 

Good Morning! Have a great Monday and a super prosperous week!

 

An awesome shout out to Canvas for always making me look good on my blog pix and and special thanks to Pixabay for their excellent photos.

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